Men’s Work
Group Details
This is a committed group format. There are no drop ins. In joining this group you are committing to the full 8 sessions.
The intention is to hold a consistent and strong space for men to go deep together. Building trust takes time. That’s why the group runs for an extended period, and why we have chosen to meet for an entire day at a time.
Each group will have a different topic that we will explore together experientially. That will lead to both individual and group processes. We will always leave space for what needs to arise, and follow the group’s needs and wisdom.
Themes will/can include:
-Power and Competition
-Masculinity and Femininity
-Vulnerability
-Gender role expectations in society
-Sexuality
-Leadership
In between sessions, we will suggest different explorations. These are always optional but we believe they will help deepen your experience.
There is an interview process for admittance. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out to either of us.
Practicals:
The investment is a sliding scale format, in order to make the group accessible to men of different financial means. We ask you to take a moment to see what feels right for you:
-$1,250 (or $250/group) - This would be for those who are needing some assistance
-$1,500 (or $300/group) - This is the cost of the group
-$1,750 (or $350/group) - This would be for those who are wanting to help support other men
The total fee can be paid in 2 installments. One due on registration before the first group. The second payment before the 3rd group in March. Reach out to us if you are needing a payment plan.
While the commitment is to all 5 meetings, we understand that absences may occur. It is our policy that you can miss (and not pay for) one session during the duration of the group. If you happen to miss more than one, you will still be responsible for payment. Attending 4 of the 5 meetings is the bare minimum. If attendance is an issue, please discuss with us before deciding to join.
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Talk therapy can be powerful and transformative work. In my work we certainly talk and take time to explore your world through cognitive inquiry ~ though I don’t stop there.
Picture it in terms of channels: Your mind is a radio channel. So we can tune into your mind, and hear all it has to say. Then - in the following moment - we can tune into a different radio station, and listen to your feelings. And another station we feel into your body and feel into its impulses. Perhaps I invite you to stand up and follow one of those impulses. Perhaps we tune into another channel, your sounds or your visualizations, etc. You have access to many channels. So the difference is that in my work I am supporting you to experience yourself (and your challenges) through various levels of your being.
In this approach, we end up coming across many hidden parts that are far less accessible if we just choose to stay in a verbal only mode. It’s through this multi-dimensional freedom, that I support your emerging awareness to expand beyond what your mind is able to predict on its own.
This creates an incredible opportunity for deep and lasting shifts to occur.
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In our western culture, we tend to over-value our cognitive/mental realm more than we do our feeling/body realm. This lends towards the paradigm of do more + feel less.
While only feeling deeply, and neglecting our rationality won’t serve us either ~ so the opposite is true.
Our bodies contain wisdom. When we are doing something we know we don’t want to do — there is a feeling in our bodies that alerts us. Sometimes, that alarm is dulled out, and we override ourselves. Our body connects us to our intuition, our visceral power and the love in our hearts.
The objective is to support you in becoming embodied. Embodiment means you:
FEEL your truth
SPEAK your truth
EXPRESS your truthWith your mind, heart, body and soul TOGETHER.
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The main differences I’ve experienced with most somatic modalities, is the willingness in Core Energetics to dive into and own our unconscious negativity, or our unconscious inner “NO”.
For example: let’s say you want to change a behavior, such as putting a boundary with someone. But every time you come to it, you slip back into an old pattern and you capitulate again.
You want to change. You know you want to change. You know the behavior isn’t serving you. But you do it anyway. Why?
Often, there is an unconscious force in us that resists changing out of a known way of being. We call these survival patterns. They are places in us that protected us from feeling overwhelming feelings of hurt, fear or anger ~ most often when we were too young to understand why we were feeling that way.
Perhaps it says something like: “NO! I won’t risk the uncertainty of losing connection! I’ll do what you want, if you stay with me”. If we are unable to bring awareness to these place, its powerful energy and what it is protecting underneath ~ it will be very hard to make lasting changes in how we operate in the world.
In this work, I will support you to find the hidden places in you, that may not be pretty or comfortable to see ~ though in seeing them it radically liberates us, and can bring you to your authentic YES.
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Catharsis, or moments of full self expression is just one tool that we can use to help unstuck the stuck. It’s not essential, and it’s not the end goal of the work.
It’s role in the process needs to be right sized for each individual. For some, it’s more needed, and for others maybe not at all.
An intense emotional experience is harmful if you don’t have the appropriate grounding and containment to integrate it into your understanding of reality. This is why, for example, some people can have a hard time integrating poorly held, yet intense therapeutic, psychedelic or breathwork experiences. We need to know what we can handle, and an experienced practitioner is a needed guide in these kinds of explorations.
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Individual Sessions are a great place to start if you’re looking for focused support, and to move at your own pace. It is a place where deep work can happen in a safe and contained space.
Movement Group is a good place to start if you are wanting to connect with your own body and get in touch with more of your feelings. It’s an accessible group for those who don’t want to make a big commitment of time and travel, and want to try out or deepen into somatic bodywork.
Process Group is a good place for those who want to expand their therapeutic work into the interpersonal realm. It’s for those who want to explore how they show up with others, and discover themselves with the help of a community of fellow adventurers. It tends to gravitate those who have done some inner work prior to joining.
If you’re unsure, the best thing to do is reach out and we can have a 15 minute chat together.
If you’d like to know more about this work, watch the docuseries Group that my colleague David Sutcliffe created a number of years ago.